The sequel to “The Making of Godfrey Malibe” challenges men to choose love over fear – and shows how that choice can end gender‑based violence. Picture Credits: Godfrey Malibe (Supplied)
By Duncan Mnisi
Book Review – Godfrey Malibe’s Heart Over Fist Encourages Men to Rethink Masculinity
Godfrey Malibe’s Heart Over Fist serves as a sequel to his earlier work, The Making of Godfrey Malibe, and positions itself as a practical guide for men seeking to break cycles of aggression and cultivate healthier relationships.
In the book, Malibe writes, “We must choose love over fear, and we must choose to be present, to encourage, and to empower.” He urges men to move beyond traditional notions of masculinity and to express affection openly, particularly toward their daughters. “Your daughter will remember your love long after she has forgotten your words,” he notes, emphasizing that fathers should lift young women up rather than tear them down.
Blending personal anecdotes, satire, and fictionalized stories, the text creates a conversational tone that feels like a one‑on‑one discussion with the reader. Drawing on his own life experiences and real‑world testimonies, Malibe explores how men can transform the “traumatic and often deadly” ways they interact with women. He writes, “I want my daughters to look back on their childhood and say, ‘My father loved me well.’” By modelling respectful behavior, Malibe argues, men can play a crucial role in reducing gender-based violence.
Critics have praised the book for its candidness and accessible language. Writing for The South African Review, journalist Thabo Mkhize described it as “a heartfelt call to action that speaks directly to the reader, making complex ideas about masculinity feel immediate and doable.” Online reviews on platforms such as Amazon reflect similar sentiment, with many readers calling the book “a masterpiece” and “exactly the kind of guide we need today.”
Malibe’s previous works, including the award-winning The Making of Godfrey Malibe, established him as an important voice on social issues in South Africa. With Heart Over Fist, he continues this tradition, offering concrete steps for men to become more caring partners, fathers, and community members.
For anyone looking to reshape their understanding of modern masculinity, the book offers both inspiration and practical guidance.
